Discomfort

Recognize discomfort for what it is [for you]. Emotional Discomfort is not understanding, misunderstanding, confusion. With enough emotional discomfort we often find physical pain anywhere in our body. Physical discomfort might be an upset stomach, a headache, feeling light headed [because you don't realize you're hyperventilating], among several other scenarios. This post focuses on emotional discomfort.

When you are in a crowd, do you want to run? What fears play in your head? Before you leave your house for a store or a concert, what fears do you hear from yourself? Learn to recognize where you are stopped with issues so you can work with them and move past them. You'll make your life much easier, though it appears as uncaring or carefree to some people, but that is why I have a blog - to help anyone alleviate stress. If you get upset either with the task of dealing with your issues or for whatever reason you can't seem to do this, try working on something else. Trying too hard will make you more frustrated [in not being able to do it right if you're the type to say those things to yourself, in not being able to make it work the first time...it's not that it's not for you, you're still letting your fears run you so try something else].

With repetition these behaviors and tricks I have taught myself have become very normal. They are natural and have mostly replaced the anger I felt when I would see obvious stupid shit. That's not exactly a curse word because I use it as a term. When I speak it out loud, it runs together: stupidshit. We all have trouble dealing with stupid shit, but each of us will see different things as not even worth being considered as stupid shit. Stupidshit is something that gets in the way unnecessarily. It's most upsetting when we know it's our own doing that created the scenario for the stupid shit to occur. PMSey women and pregnant women know what I mean. We know when we are being irrational. It's when we aren't allowed to get it out and have the space to move past it...but that's the other side of not being able to handle stupid shit. When someone's on the listening to complaining end or even the receiving end, if they don't know how to deal with the stupid things that happen ..and they will continue to happen as long as it is recognized and given a reaction.. I could rant but I digress. Female/male, hormones, science...that's too much for right now.

Instead of using your uncomfortable feelings to make everyone else uncomfortable, remember that they may not feel how you do. That's not to make you feel alone and misunderstood, that's to remind you that you don't have to feel that way. Let their good emotions bring you in. Examples: You don't like someone so you think they shouldn't be around, you work to turn everyone against them and why? You were the only one who felt that way, who thought those thoughts, now you make everyone feel discomfort because you are around and not the person you don't want around. Backfire. ~ You really want to know what was just being talked about and when you finally beg enough to make someone speak up, you wish you didn't because you realize how much more awkward the situation is and it would have been dropped if you didn't have to know everything..learn to read body language. ~ You try so hard not to be like this or that person that it consumes you, you think about all the bad things they did and how you don't want to do them and you can't see that you have worked yourself into that which you didn't want to be. There is a wide range of discomfort and reasons for it. It is up to you to look into what you need to know, what you need to make known, and what you need to look into before making anything known.