When we are young, say teenagers, we view adults as if they know what they are doing and we expect they have all the answers. We wish our friends would act more mature so we can be adults right away. People don't realize (don't realize then and some may never notice) that no one has life down pat. No one can know what they are doing is definitely the right thing for the situation at hand. The difference is that some people are okay with making mistakes. It's how we learn. It's how our brains put the pieces together.
"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new." -Albert Einstein
As adults, we don't understand why so many people are immature. We just haven't learned to work together as adults with different opinions. If our children knew this, they could work to better their own future since we can't live only for their future. This seems to be how parents and non-parents alike work in the world's systems. Politics today are screaming it in my opinion. Some people have such an ingrained religious belief that they see it as the way life is. There is nothing wrong with that. Pushing those ideas and views onto others who don't believe in the same thing does not coincide with different lifestyles. If we can understand, as adults, that everyone else does not think or feel the same as us individually, then we can work to understand that it is okay to be different. With that small tweak, we will approach life differently possibly work better with others, show younger generations that life is not a waste-you don't necessarily have to grow up into adulthood to deal with grade school mentalities from other adults, and we can have a happier country when we stop pushing laws from religious perspectives that not everyone follows. Those laws make a majority of people feel persecuted and wrong as well as wronged by those who pushed the idea. We just don't hear from many people that don't agree with harsh laws. We only hear from the side that think it's necessary to enact their ideas and for that we feel like they are the majority because it's all we hear in the news, on the radio, it's the talk of the office, etc...wherever you get your news.
When you think you're doing all that you can and you're doing what's right for you, then you probably are. You will always hear from people that have an opinion on your situation. Some people are argumentative in nature, others are nicer in their speech. Some of those people feel like they have the answer that you need to use-what most people don't seem to notice is that every single person has their own issues, their thoughts surrounding those issues factor into what they see as well as say about what happens around them, this might help them look outside of their situation or it might help keep them from looking objectively at their own situation(s), either way and whatever their intention is, it is up to you to create a meaning. If someone tells you you need a roommate to pay your bills and that is most definitely the answer to your solution, you can know they can't possibly take in all the factors that you have to handle. They may come back to you later and appear argumentative. You can calmly explain to them a few reasons or ideas within your situation and explain that you would have needed help enacting such an idea. Though it might be a great solution, it didn't work for your situation. Several people said this to me, but none of them understood the brevity of my case. Everyone had their own ideas and opinions on what would fix my life. Most of them didn't take into account that I wasn't stressed out or worried about any outcome. Things happen and I can't make every single thing go "my way." I can only be okay with whatever happens since most things in life are unknown and impossible to foresee and prepare for. People that offer opinions are also putting themselves in the situation. They assume what they would feel is how you do feel and they don't want you to suffer. It's ironically very sweet, but it's completely unnecessary. We all need friends to laugh with, to let us vent and complain once in a while without thinking we have been stuffing these things down to pretend we are happy in spite of our lives seemingly falling apart. Humans are resilient. We can make it through anything.
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