We crave what we understand in what we want. We will eventually learn there is more to what we see. Thus what we want changes. We are never done learning. If you can stop nitpicking quirks or personality traits, you can get along well with those you live with. Others might see those same things with enjoyment. Wanting someone to change or be different will only hurt you. Is the thing that annoys you worth obsessing over? In most cases it isn't. If you are unhappy then you are the cause. If a friend, mate, partner, sibling, parent, etc, has a quirk that gets on your nerves...What can you do about it? Nothing. Let it go. Can you change it? Can you make them stop? No. Understand it's not a part of you and there is nothing to fix and let it go.
There are always exceptions. An exception that comes to mind is abuse. It is never okay to be physically or verbally/mentally abused. We do need to stand up for ourselves when something is truly wrong. But it's up to you to decide what is and isn't wrong. We as humans often fixate on things that don't matter. Possibly to ignore things that do, but the why doesn't always matter. Acting out of anger is never good. Some can see their mistakes, learn to work with them, learn from them, and move on. Others become stuck and then fear change.
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